For some subs, they love nothing more than to be forced into play and lose much control over what is going to happen. They do not want a cooperative mutually negotiated scenario, but rather a nonconsensual fantasy and a fair amount of force. Restraints will have to be strong and escape-proof. They need to struggle and suffer until they reach a phase of liberation or release. They may want to be broken.
What is Consensual non-consent?
“Consensual non-consent” (CNC) describes engaging in behaviors that may include role-playing nonconsensual behaviors, or may involve negotiating sexual behaviors where one partner agrees to give up consent during certain behaviors or relationships. For example, this can involve individuals who describe to their partner or potential partner that they fantasize about being kidnapped and raped; the partners agree to enact such as a role-play “scene” in real life, in order to fulfill the desired fantasy. “CNC” describes the manner in which the individuals consensually negotiate in advance what the in-the-moment nonconsensual behaviors and role-play would involve. Consensual non-consent represents individuals who put responsibility and control in the hands of another person, inviting others to push themselves beyond their limits or to take responsibility for overcoming the submissive’s internal obstacles to engaging in desired behaviors. Consensual non-consent, in essence, reflects an extreme form of eroticization of powerlessness.
Sometimes people cannot willingly go where they need to go, they have to be taken there. For someone new to BDSM, please treat with caution into a CNC scene or revisit when you have more experience in play and scenes, and you will feel much more comfortable with your partner and yourself to begin explore in Consensual non-consent.
Play safe and have fun!