Make me.
This is the trademark saying for brats. A "brat" is a delightfully disobedient sub within the Dom/sub dynamic of BDSM. "Brats enjoy questioning dominance, as well as like for dominance to be proven to them," says Emerson Karsh, a kink educator.
Why would you want to be a brat during sex? Why wouldn't you? Being cheeky, disobedient, and naughty is fun. It creates a sense of playfulness that is often missing in sex. Being a brat is a very fun way to engage with your submissive side, without being a stereotypical sub. Brats are mouthy, badly behaved, and keen on punishment.
In a BDSM relationship, the concept of being a “brat” can add an element of playful tension, challenge, and excitement, making the dynamic more engaging and fun for both parties. A “brat” in BDSM refers to a submissive partner who enjoys playful defiance, teasing, or pushing boundaries in a non-serious way, often to provoke reactions or attention from their dominant partner. Here’s how this dynamic can enhance the relationship:
1. Playful Rebellion: Being a brat allows the submissive partner to break the rules in a mischievous way, challenging the dominant partner to “reel them back in.” This back-and-forth creates playful tension and makes power dynamics more interesting and unpredictable.
2. Engagement and Attention: Bratting is a way for submissives to gain attention and interaction from their dominant. They might tease or provoke to elicit a response, which can be exciting and stimulating for both parties, building a sense of connection.
3. Testing Limits: The brat often pushes the boundaries of rules, giving the dominant partner opportunities to assert their authority in a fun and consensual manner. It’s a way to explore each other’s boundaries in a safe and controlled environment.
4. Humor and Fun: Brat dynamics often include humor and light-heartedness. The playful defiance creates opportunities for laughter, inside jokes, and shared experiences that are unique to the relationship, keeping things fresh and enjoyable.
5. Emotional Intensity: The brat/dominant dynamic can lead to heightened emotional exchanges, such as mock frustration from the dominant or exaggerated punishment scenes, which amplify the intensity and excitement of the relationship without crossing serious boundaries.
6. Role Reaffirmation: By playfully challenging authority, the brat reminds both partners of their roles, reinforcing the dominant’s power and the submissive’s playful rebellion. It creates a cycle of reaffirmation that strengthens the power exchange.
Overall, bratting adds an element of unpredictability, humor, and fun to a BDSM relationship, making the dynamic more complex and engaging. It requires clear communication and consent to ensure that both partners are comfortable with the level of teasing and boundary-pushing.
