Want to give spanking a try? Great!! As you have already figured out, spanking is not a punishment when you did something wrong, it is a reward.
According to pleasure coach Tyomi Morgan, spanking releases a cocktail of “feel good chemicals” in your brain to reverse the initial feeling of pain. “Dopamine, adrenaline, oxytocin and endorphins are released, transmuting the impact into a pleasurable experience,” she explains—adding that even the sound of it can be arousing for some people. Rarr.
First tip: start slow.
Fresh skin and flesh are not prepared for heavy hits, period. So, we need to start very gentle. It cannot be too soft when you start out the spanking session and only intensify at the request of the receiver. So, subs, speak up about your needs if you would like your doms to hit harder!
Second tip: take mini breaks
After a few minutes of continuous impact, it is always a good idea to take a break which would be good for both sides. This will allow the dom to rest their hands and wrists to prevent injuries. People have no idea that most injuries from spanking are suffered by the doms, not the subs. Second of all, rubbing the location of the impact during breaks is a good way to extend the session and monitor bruising. It is highly important to be aware of the color changes of the skin as blood rushes to the place of the impact.
Third tip: aim low
There are four zones of the butt you want to impact: The top near your back, the sides by your hips, the underside of your cheeks, and the middle, squishy part. In particular, Morgan suggests spanking from the bottom because it “sends vibrations into the genitals that can bring more stimulation and lubrication.”
Fourth tip: find out what turns you on
Spanking is different for different people. Some might find it hot to be slapped in the heat of the moment; some like it when tied down by their partners and feel powerless and vice versa; some find the pain itself is exhilarating and erotic; some like the release of hormones induced by the spanking. Whatever turns you on is fine, as long as you know your thing and keep doing what is right for you and your partner.
Fifth tip: a sense of powerlessness
As we discussed above, some couples like the power exchange portion of spanking the most. It often means that one partner is restricted and tied down and the other party gets to decide how long and how hard to spank the other party. So the spanking itself is not the main point, being powerless and let the dom have his or her way is. In this case, find a good spanking bench that can easily tie your partner up in seconds and have him or her be in that position for a long time is fabulous.
Sixth tip: try blindfold
Spanking is more exciting when the one receiving the spanking does not know when he or she is going to be spanked. When the eyes are covered, the other senses are turned on much more than usual. The waiting in between the hits, the breathing of the dom, the voice commands, the gentle touches during breaks are just more tantalizing than without the blindfold.
Seventh tip: use hands first
When starting the spanking, it is always a good idea to warm up the area we intend to hit. Rubbing, touching, caressing using your hands are great ideas. After the skin starts to warm up and showing a pinkish color, use your hands to spank your partners before you bring out the paddles, floggers, and whips. Hands definitely feel more intimate than toys, and both partners feel the impact equally. It is great to establish and connection between the receiver and the giver of spanking through skin-on-skin contact and allow the body to get used to the impact.
OK, guys, let’s bring out your hands, paddles, and floggers and slap that money maker!