1. Fisting 

Vaginal fisting or anal fisting may not necessarily be a BDSM play, but it is commonly applied in scenes. Many enjoy it but some might hesitate to try. There is much guidance on this matter and we would discuss it in detail in a separate article.  

  1. Flogging 

Flogging is very friendly to beginners but is very useful for experienced users as well. As a newbie, one could start with a softer flogger with big falls. Then as the experience grows, you can play with many different kinds of floggers or even build one yourself.  

We have many articles regarding flogging, sensations of different floggers and techniques of how to use them. 

  1. Foot Worship 

Foot worship is a little different than foot fetish, worshiping the feet has a submissive tone built in. Usually, the sub is considered only fit to worship the feet of the dom ( most likely female). The sub submits to the power and beauty of their mistress’s toes, soles and arches. 

Kissing and sucking on the toes are a good way to start. There could be ways for the sub to show appreciation such as: giving her a sexy pedicure, massaging her beautiful feet, take her shoe shopping and buy her silk stockings. 

  1. Gun Play 

Most consider real guns taboo in BDSM play. But those who do use guns in scenes uses unloaded real ones or replica gun or a toy gun. It could be used a tool to set the scene for police and criminal or captor and captive. It could also be used to penetrate the vagina or mouth. 

  1. Hair Pulling 

Hair pulling does not require a tool, just the hands of the top. It is a great way for someone new to BDSM to experiment with light dominance and pain. It shows the sub who is in charge with just the light grasp at the back of the neck or harder pulling and use during positions like doggy style. 

During bondage scenes, hair pulling can be added to dominate the vulnerable sub. 

  1. Humiliation Play 

Erotic humiliation is consensual psychological humiliation performed in order to produce erotic excitement or sexual arousal. This can be for either the person(s) being humiliated and demeaned or the person(s) humiliating, or both.

Erotic humiliation can be done verbally, physically, or both, and can be either private or in public. Some individuals assume an acting role and others prefer to be spoken to in a degrading way. A classic technique that can be used to put the submissive into a bottom mind space is to humiliate them while also providing them with sexual stimulation. Select individuals who desire this form of humiliation also use it to acquire emotional release. Humiliation can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations, it can also be easily carried out over a long distance (such as online).