Your brain is like a built-in pharmacy, loaded with natural chemicals called neurotransmitters (like endorphins) that can make you feel amazing, reduce pain, and even give you a “floaty” sensation. Let’s break down what’s happening in your brain during a BDSM scene. Keep in mind, everyone’s experience is unique, and science hasn’t fully caught up to BDSM yet (probably because lab equipment isn’t exactly dungeon-friendly). But we can look at how the brain responds to pain and pleasure to understand the basics.
The Rush of Anticipation
Imagine your Dom (or another sexy partner) tying you up—maybe a little roughly. You feel a mix of excitement and nervous energy as you anticipate what’s coming next. That surge you’re experiencing? It’s adrenaline, the “fight or flight” hormone. This is your body’s way of preparing you for action, making you feel energized and maybe even a little feisty.
From Excited to Calm
As the scene progresses, you might notice that your body starts to feel calmer—even if your Dom is adding some pain into the mix. What’s happening? Your brain switches from adrenaline to a chemical called noradrenaline. This neurotransmitter helps you relax and lets you fully enjoy the sensations.
If you’re deeply into the scene, you might feel a dreamy, almost out-of-body sensation. This is called subspace, an altered mental state where you feel euphoric, deeply relaxed, or even “high.” It’s like your brain hits pause on the outside world and tunes in fully to the moment.
The Role of “Feel-Good” Chemicals
Scientists think subspace might come from your brain releasing dopamine and serotonin:
• Dopamine: The “reward” chemical. It boosts feelings of pleasure and satisfaction.
• Serotonin: Helps with confidence and makes you more open to new experiences (like a BDSM scene).
While there’s still a lot to learn, these chemicals likely work together to create that blissful feeling. Neuroscientist Hermes Solenzol, who studies pain, suggests that while we don’t fully understand how these chemicals affect subspace, they may explain the feeling of dissociation or deep relaxation some people experience.
A Natural High
The brain chemicals released during BDSM can mimic the effects of drugs like cocaine or morphine—but without needing anything more than your own body. That’s why BDSM can feel like nothing else, even while you’re completely sober.
Starting Your BDSM Journey
If you’re curious about trying BDSM with your partner, take it slow and keep it simple at first. Pay attention to how your body and mind respond to the experience. Most importantly, talk openly with your partner before, during, and after the scene to ensure you both feel safe and satisfied.
BDSM is about exploring pleasure, trust, and connection, and the natural brain chemistry it sparks is just one part of the magic.