“I enjoy being restrained but my preference is to be held down by human force. I like the feeling of hands squeezing my wrists and a knee on my chest, a hand palm pushing on my face. I also enjoy being called names and told that I am only good for fucking and for giving pleasure to other person. Something about being used makes me feel really hot and confident and empowered. Feeling out of control when there is trust and desire involved takes me to a transcendent place that I don’t get to on my own or during non-BDSM sex. “ Dylan from the Ultimate Guide to Kink, BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taorrmino
Dylan is a meticulous person, she takes proud herself of always looking and acting very thoughtfully and respectful of others. She likes to talk to people and enjoy deep connections with her families and friends. But she also has a wild side and enjoys tremendously when her sex partner plays rough with her.
Make no mistake, all the roughness is agreed upon before the act. She knows exactly what is going to happen and the talk about rough sex turns her on. They would also have safe words and gestures in place so that she can stop the scene whenever she wants to.
She likes having light bruises and scratches on her body after the sex. It reminds her how intense the scene was and she wares them like a badge of honor.